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Let me preface this thread by saying that in general I don't get easily annoyed. I am 52 years old and have been discing on a regular basis for the past 17 years. I have played tournaments both as an advanced amateur and as a pro. In other words, you might call me somewhat of a seasoned veteran. I have never taken money or prizes in tournament play but I have had some decent rounds and I do win from time to time in the local doubles leagues. I have not played tournaments in the past few years but if I did I would be competing in the Grand Masters category.
That being said, here are two particular things that do annoy me and I wish that people would not do.
1) Please don't show up for random draw doubles and then complain when you get a certain partner. It is random draw doubles. There is the possibility of having to play with anyone from the best player down to the absolute worst player. I am neither. That is the nature of the beast. About two weeks ago I got paired up with one guy who when he sees that we will be partners puts out a huge sigh of disgust. Let me just say that does not bode well with me because when I show up I will always put out my best effort and my goal is to come in first. But as soon as I see that my partner is going to whine and complain it makes it that much harder to just play disc golf. Now there is this other element of expectation that just gets in the way. I say that you expect nothing but that you earn everything. If you think that you will win or lose before you even throw a disc then there is something wrong. Show up, do your best and let that be that.
I did play about a month ago with a guy who had previously complained when paired up with me but didn't do so on that occasion. We played decent but it was windy and we missed a few putts. We still managed to take the win because the conditions were difficult for everyone and we just stayed focused. If you watch ball golf at all you will realize that the best strategy is that of not giving up. You always fight till the end. I was really proud of this guy because on this occasion he showed that he could fight for the win.
2) Please don't give unwanted advice, especially to another player who has been around. I went out to play a casual round a couple of days ago with another local player. I wasn't really on my game that day. It happens. You have your good days and you have your bad days. I was missing putts and this guy just went on and on about his thoughts that I needed to putt with a different disc. Now I have putted with that particular disc on hundreds of occasions and generally I will bash the chains with it. Also, my mistakes were something that I understood, like not throwing the putt hard enough or simply not following through. Those are mental errors. But he kept going on and on and it was really just an annoyance. The very next day I went out and played with a younger guy who has game and a go for it attitude (he is also a much better player than the guy I played with the day before). We enjoyed ourselves, there was none of the unwanted advice and I made a lot less mistakes. I still made a few errors but overall I could tell how much better I was playing. I may have even showed him a few things.
So to anyone that I might play with I say this. I enjoy disc golf. If it becomes an activity that is more like work I will probably quit playing. I have no dreams of becoming the next world champion. It is what it is. Now can we just go out and enjoy ourselves and go for a few ace runs? Let us go out and enjoy the sport of disc golf and give each other a few high fives along the way.
any and all communities of any size will ALWAYS have it's disagreements... it's a byproduct of humanity's free thought.
that being said, sometimes the thing to do is just to walk away from or avoid the person you have a disagreement with. I personally would just not play with someone who I feel is a detriment to my enjoyment of the round.. if that means not playing in the doubles that week and just throwing a round well so be it. but know this.. in the situation you described, no amount of arguing will do anything but stress out the day for everyone... maybe it's just time to be the bigger man in the situation.
While I don't really understand what you are trying to say, I do agree with you that the sport should be based on etiquette and enjoyment along with respect. We can disagree on strategies, etc. but we shouldn't look down on our fellow players because they use a different style or throw a different disc. We should respect them and realize that in disc golf like everything else there will be different opinions, styles, and strategies. Look at the guy who started bowling with two hands instead of just one. Probably more than a few people thought that he was nuts. But now he is a pro who makes quite a bit of money with "his style" of doing things. He is someone who created a whole new way of doing things. Being different isn't always a bad thing.
Let all opinions be heard but please let's refrain from making character assassinations just because you don't hold the same point of view as someone else. We should also refrain from the "it's all this way or it's all that way" mentality. There are many ways of doing things and what works for one may not work for another.