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My mistake and a bigger DB...
This is a smattering of stuff that has been keeping me up at night…am I out of line?
Understand that our club president sent him an e-mail at 12AM the night of (about 2 hours
after the fact) and called him first thing in the morning. The club helps sponsor the league.
What would your reaction be?
Original stlouisdiscgolfclub.com post:
And after the club president talked
As I explained to Chris you guys
approached me with the offer I didn't ask you for it. I think it is really
unfair of you to expect me to give everything back especially when Chris had me
sign a paper stating that I was paid for the coupon so I couldn't go back on
the deal. As you stated JB is a public park but you then "suggest"
that I not show up there on anyday. If this is some sort of threat against my
person or my property I will immediately call the police if there is any hint
of trouble at JB park. I will be keeping this email just in case as evidence of
the threat if there is any trouble. Please cease to contact me further.
After a few testimonials
on my behalf, here is a reply…
And my final transmission…
Sometimes a mistake is made. Sometimes individuals need to step back and look
at it from a different point of view. We are a volunteer organization. I am
sorry that you saw it as an irreversible situation, when in fact it is nowhere
near this way. It only backs up the testimonies from several other,
non-involved, individuals that you sometimes rub people the wrong way. Maybe
you are what they say you are. Sorry to see you go. Have fun, buddy...I will
never contact you again. There are plenty of other courses for you to play. No
threats will EVER be issued, but your presence at JB will probably not be very
well received. I hope you enjoy your 6 discs and $71 enough to compensate for
your loss of St. Louis
disc golf as a fun and carefree activity.
P.S. "If this is some sort of threat against my person or my property I
will immediately call the police if there is any hint of trouble at JB park. I
will be keeping this email just in case as evidence of the threat if there is
any trouble." Do you honestly think
I would do anything remotely close to this? You must be a...
No need to apologize to me at least.You asked for some feedback from this community/family.
If fair assessment would let you sleep/clear up this matter,by all means talk to his clergy.Tell your side of the story,you might both get to see the light of day much clearer.Hope you take the right path,may you find the fairway. Sorry your dg course has "rough" edges,stay in bounds.The urban area is a changing course,some of the "burbs" are'nt all that safe either.May you find results that will settle the dilema.
Stress will kill anyone. Peace.
Had I been the one to pay out, I would have maybe contacted the guy to see if there was something we could work out, but on the other hand, since he did not make the mistake I would not be rude or even pushy about it, really it is only a few bucks, and I to have given lots to Disc Golf... I have given 100s of disc's away free, and I have done a few things that cost me money when I had not planed on it... If it really hurts the club, maybe you could talk to the members, do a few rounds where you pay out half? And put the rest back into the club. I never mind helping out any clubs I am in or have been in.
I say we work hard to get along and that is what helps disc golf grow!
It seems that it was your mistake in the first place. You need to accept the mistake, not ban anyone from the league, and try to stay more focused next time.
You said in a previous post "the details of the coupon were posted at league central and on a tee-sign. It was a large 8.5" x 11" sign that was pretty hard to miss. It was even harder to mis-interpret." I am guessing you are the one who wrote it, and still forgot about it. You also said "He saw a window of opportunity when I was making the mistake and did nothing to correct my mistake." Unless this was done in a private room, I assume that the rest of the players said nothing.
If you really feel wronged, be the bigger man, accept him back into leagues, and play on.
Actually Gateway laid this on me at the last minute. They handed the basket and signage to me when I went by to pick up the discs for the 1-Disc Challenge that evening. It was not part of the original plan, and that is why I screwed up when I had 60+ leaguers hitting me up with their prize-out vouchers from the 8 week league. Simply put, I had too much on the plate...check out the website discussion board if you want to. I always try to out do myself. The rest of the player's said nothing because they weren't leaning into the conversation...trust me, they would have said something if they had heard/seen it.
I have dropped the issue, but he will NEVER be allowed to play in JB Tuesday Doubles as long as I am at the helm. Trust me, this is a unanimous feeling from EVERYONE at the course/league. Maybe I am doing a poor job of explaining exactly what happened...