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some are serious in response to there nerves
That final round could have been fun for you if you reacted to it the right way. The heat of the battle is is a very special kind of fun, even if no one is joking around.
Some final groups will have the kinds of personalities and interactions where players congratulate and support each other, others don't. So what. The fun lies in the excitement and pressure of the moment. Not everyone deals with those situations well or handles pressure well. It is too much to expect all your playing partners to show class or social skills. This is one reason why many old guys prefer the older divisions as older folks tend to less overtly competitive. This doesn't mean we want it less, just that life experience grows class.
You are the only one who can control your happiness, your mood or your enjoyment. There should be an emotional reward for playing well, which you had to do to make the lead card. There is an emotional reward for being in the heat of the battle, if you allow yourself to feel it, if you can overcome your own fears and anxieties, if you can block out the distractions and use that adrenaline and energy to excel.
You should not depend on others to have fun or to feel joy. Yes some players are jerks. All the more reason to play well against them. But why not be charitable to them? Rather than assume they are bad people, why not assume they handle pressure poorly? You can't read their minds.
At the end of the round there is plenty of time for joking around, surrounded by friends, tipping a drink. It is much more rewarding if you have something to celebrate (rather than something to mourn). Get back to that final round and find the fun you missed.
You heard what happened to me and chris a couple weeks ago? Just dont do that! lmao
If you don't learn to lose gracefully you will never trully appreciate what it means to win. Learn to laugh at your self. All you are doing is playing against you. What you believe is what becomes your reality. You can be your own worse enemy or your best friend and every one needs more friends. Play every course to the strengths of your game. I prefer not to watch what someone else is doing in regards to their shot or flight lines. Play the course before the tournament. Throw different shots before hand and find the one that is most consistant for you. Don't be a chaser. The last thing you need is to take a bogey or worse on a hole when what you really wanted was a birdie. Take your par and move on. If you are conserative and place your shots well, the disc gods will smile on you. Finally, if this sport was easy nobody would want to play it. Remember why you got into this sport. It is a challenge. It keeps you coming back; knowing that if you could just perfect yourself you would throw a better game. I hope you do well. Try not to take your next tounament so seriously. You are just throwing a disc into a basket after all.
Vic, I would say from knowing you and seeing you play, that at tournament level play, you just try to hard and get grip lock or to early of a release. Just com yourself down, focus, and put the disc where you think it should be for the next shot. If you just walk up and throw your right hand back hand, it will only go so far, before it goes left. Unless you can put some more on it, sort of like putting English on a cue ball to make it set up the next shot in a game of pool. Good luck Sat and Sun. at the 15th. Daytona Open. GB #554